Setting In for Social Distancing

It seems that social distancing will be our reality for the next 6-18 months, depending on a bunch of variables, a few of which we have some influence over, and some of which are just unknown because researchers have had so little time so far to study this virus. Anyway, you can look up the details if you want; this post is about how I'm making plans to settle in for a while.

I posted on Facebook last week about the need to set a personal schedule and create boundaries both in time and space. I'll reiterate those here, with additions and revisions. I also highly recommend my brother's post about dealing with social isolation.

Create a schedule that works for you and stick to it as much as possible.

Some of us have been required or strongly encouraged to stick to regular business hours so that we can coordinate our work with coworkers. Others will have the ability (or the necessity) to adjust their working hours to accommodate the fact that they are now de facto homeschooling teachers and caregivers, or for other personal reasons. Regardless of how much flexibility is available to you, I recommend the following: 

1. Get up and go to bed at the same time every day. 

In Doctrine and Covenants section 88, the Lord counsels his servants regarding their preparations to build a temple for the first time since the Restoration and to establish what was known as "the school of the prophets." In verse 124, we read:

Cease to be idle; cease to be unclean; cease to find fault one with another; cease to sleep longer than is needful; retire to thy bed early, that ye may not be weary; arise early, that your bodies and your minds may be invigorated. (emphasis added)

Due to the protestant work ethic that was imported into Mormon culture from its earliest days, this verse has often been interpreted to mean something along the lines of "faithful members should be asleep by 10 PM and awake by 6 AM, if not earlier." But I want to suggest a somewhat different interpretation, especially given the evidence that different people do in fact have different circadian rhythms, and that some people's work schedules simply don't permit such a rigid reading. What I want to suggest, then, is that while the underlying principle expressed in verse 124 is true for all people, "early" is subjective. And I think it has to do with what I like to call "the Hour of Dumb."

The Hour of Dumb
The Hour of Dumb varies somewhat from one person to another, but all of us have one. If you think you don't, it's probably because you're in the habit of staying up way past your Hour of Dumb and you're in denial.

The Hour of Dumb arrives when you have pushed past your body's normal feeling of nighttime sleepiness and achieved a sort of second wind that you mistake for actual alertness.

In fact, at this point, your brain function is pretty much that of a drunk person. You cease to have the good sense to go to bed, or if you do start getting ready for bed, you find it difficult to remember or perform your normal bedtime routine: e.g. you forget to take your nighttime medicine, or to floss, or something like that. Even more likely than failing to properly navigate your bedtime routine, you'll just decide to postpone going to bed even further for no particular reason. If you are past the Hour of Dumb, you will likely find yourself watching a whole series of inane YouTube videos and reading the comments, or worse: responding to YouTube comments. If you are trying to overcome a bad habit, the Hour of Dumb is the time you're most likely to cave in and repeat the bad habit.

So I interpret "retire to thy bed early" to mean "go to bed before your Hour of Dumb."

Now, if you're going to bed before your Hour of Dumb, it is equally important not to sleep in longer than you need to. I don't have a catchy name for that point in the morning when you've indulged in one too many hits of the snooze button, but most of us are probably familiar with that groggy feeling we get on weekends when we try to "catch up" on the week's lost sleep by sleeping in until 10 AM (or whenever it is for you). Plus, getting up at the same time every day as much as possible will help you avoid staying awake past your Hour of Dumb.

2. Establish regular working hours and maintain those boundaries carefully

Maintaining regular working hours benefits you, your coworkers and students (if applicable), and anyone you live with (including pets). Especially in a time of so much uncertainty, routine helps manage stress and sustain realistic expectations.

I realize that my rules for boundaries won't work for everyone in every situation, so feel free to adapt them, but stick to the underlying principle: you need work-life boundaries even more now than you did when you weren't working from home.

• Dress for work. This doesn't necessarily mean you have to wear a suit and tie at home. It might simply mean that you have a different, somewhat nicer pair of yoga pants and a cleaner, nicer shirt to wear while you're working than you do when you stop working. 
• If possible, create a dedicated work space. Maybe that just means a corner of your living room, or maybe you can convert a guest room or another space into a home office. Ideally, this will not be in your bedroom, but regardless of where it is, try to create some kind of visible divider between your work area and where you relax, unwind, and sleep.
• Establish a "preparing for work" and "ending the work-day" routine that is similar to what you had before. If you didn't have a routine before, create one. Your mind needs cues to know when it's time for work and when it's time to not work.
• TURN OFF YOUR WORK EMAIL NOTIFICATIONS. I'm absolutely serious about this one. I know some employers won't like it; some might even prohibit it, and sometimes it's a necessary evil. But it's even more important now that you not allow work to invade non-work time. If at all possible, turn off those notifications. Use your phone or computer's calendar app to create a reminder to check your email once or twice a day on workdays. Unless your job actually, officially requires you to be available after working hours, do not check or respond to work email outside of your established working hours. 
• You will most likely have to go into your mobile device's system settings to turn off each app's permission to send you notifications. If you don't know how, you can google it.
• Turn off your social media notifications. While you're at it, it's just as important to prevent your non-work activities from invading your work hours. It's OK to choose to open your Facebook or Twitter app during your breaks (but set a timer); the notifications will all be there waiting for you at a time of your own choosing! But it will be even harder for you to resist checking those notifications when you're working at home than it was before (and be honest, it was already nearly impossible).
• You will most likely have to go into your mobile device's system settings to turn off each app's permission to send you notifications. If you don't know how, you can google it.
• In as many other ways as possible, create and stick to a work routine.

3. Establish a self-care routine and stick to it

This includes things like getting regular exercise and nutritious meals, but you might also consider replacing time you might have spent going out to socialize with other things you enjoy. For example, you might:

• Set aside daily reading time, either to make a dent in that massive pile of books that's been accumulating next to your night-stand, or to spend quality time with your kids. But don't spend too much of your free time reading; be sure to include a variety of other self-care activities as well.
• Learn (or continue practicing) a musical instrument. I've ordered myself a ukulele, because I've been told they're relatively easy to pick up the basics and the instruments themselves are pretty inexpensive.
• Learn (or continue practicing) how to draw, paint, whittle, etc. Basically, indulge in a little artistic creativity! Even better if you include your family. There are all sorts of tutorials available for free online.
• Start a garden. Not only will a garden reduce your need to go to the grocery store if the need to practice "social distancing" continues well into the summer, but working with soil and plants is good for your mental health! You don't even have to have a yard; you can set up an herb garden in a window sill--with or without a fancy hydroponic thingy.
• Spend time outside, but maintain appropriate distance from non-household members. If you've got a porch and the weather permits, pull a chair outside, enjoy some fresh air, wave to your neighbors, and maybe even enjoy some music together. I was saving up to buy a porch glider, but now I'm retooling my budget so that I can buy it sooner--I need more usable living space since my roommate and I are going to be home pretty much all the time!
• Check in virtually (and regularly) with family and friends. Make phone calls. Send letters (don't worry; the Post Office sterilizes them). Use video chat. Practicing social distancing makes it even more important that we practice relational gathering.
• Maintain good hygiene habits. I mean in addition to properly washing your hands, keep the rest of your body and living space clean and reasonably tidy, too. Hey, I know nobody can see your hair when you're working alone in your studio apartment. Wash and style it anyway; you'll feel better.
• Maintain health habits. Keep taking your medicine on time. Set up virtual appointments with your health care providers as needed. 

If your budget permits, make your home a more enriching, enjoyable space.

In the first few weeks of the pandemic, most people focused on the core essentials: nonperishable food storage and, for some reason, toilet paper. However, experts are now saying that the need to maintain social distancing may last between 6-18 months. And the longer it lasts, the better it will be in terms of saving human lives, but that will come at an almost incomprehensible cost, both economically and personally. So since we're in it for the long haul, we need to start thinking strategically about how to manage for the coming months. We don't need to head for the hills; we need to hunker down. And that means making the places we're hunkering down in as livable as we can manage.

I certainly do recommend investing in good quality emergency food storage, including having a 72-hour kit as general good preparedness practices. However, the reality of our current situation is that we are less likely to have to grab a bag and leave our homes or to experience food (or TP) shortages than we are to drive ourselves stir-crazy following CDC guidelines to stay home and practice social distancing. So my advice is that when you're thinking about stocking up on emergency supplies, once you have food and shelter sorted out (which I hope everyone reading this already does), you will want to expand your thinking to include other kinds of emergency supplies.

I already mentioned and linked above to some things you might consider obtaining, but here's a quick list of the kinds of things I've already gotten or will get to help keep my spirits up and make living nearly 24/7 at home for at least the next several months more bearable: 

• LEGO. It's a fun, creative, and infinitely variable hobby. I find it highly relaxing and mentally stimulating.
• Arts and crafting supplies.
• A ukulele and set of materials for absolute beginners.
• Treats. Chocolate, cookies, brownie mixes, stuff like that. 
• A good webcam.
• A better keyboard.
• A floor mat for my home office chair.
• Speaking of home office chairs, I already have a really nice one because fibromyalgia and dissertation, but if you have a cheap one and you just moved your desk job home, consider these (fairly expensive but worth it): 
• The Aeron (which is what I have at home and used for writing most of my dissertation) 
• The All33 Backstrong (which is what I bought myself for my campus office and I LOVE it)
• A porch glider. I like the ones at Polywood because they look good, are high quality, and are made from recycled milk bottles!
• An indoor slackline. I have had one of these for a few years now, and it's great! Ilove slacklining, and it's not too difficult to pick up, but you might want some other kind of indoor exercise equipment. Just make sure it facilitates an activity you really enjoy, or it will end up just an expensive dust collector, and you really want to avoid clutter in your living space right now!
• A Backmate self-massager that sets up in any door frame. I was a Kickstarter backer for this product, and I like it a little more than I expected to. It's not as good as a real massage, but it's great for in-between times when you can' get a real massage.
• Comfy indoor footwear. I like going barefoot, but it can get hard on my feet. At the same time, I definitely don't want to wear my "outdoor" shoes inside right now. 
• Comfier bras--or rather, not exactly bras. Nuudis provide some support and not much coverage, but are much more comfortable than traditional bras.
• Books. I didn't need to buy more of these, but I did it anyway.
• Chicks! As in baby chickens. They are adorable, and when they reach adulthood they will produce the most delicious eggs, which helps my household be a little more sustainable.
• Seriously, look how cute they are: 

Your list will probably look different than mine does--it might be completely different depending on what your own and your family's needs are. 

What are your strategies for settling in for the "Coronapocalypse"?